BASICS
OF COACHING
By Shane Dreiling, Assistant
Women’s Coach, Newman University
Founder – TeamArete.com
- LEADING
AND COACHING
- DEFINITION
i.
Leadership Definition:
Leadership is influencing people – by providing purpose, direction and
motivation – while operating to accomplish the missing and improving the
organization.
- DO
RIGHT RULES
i.
Relentlessly pursue
excellence
ii.
Respect yourself and
others
iii.
Take full
responsibility
iv.
Faithfully serve your
neighbor
v.
Develop and
demonstrate loyalty
vi.
Put the team before
yourself
vii.
Discipline yourself so
no one else has to
viii.
Make hard work your
passion
ix.
Be a competitor
x.
Learn to be a great
communicator
xi.
Make winning an
attitude
xii.
Handle success like
you handle failure
- LDRSHIP
i.
Loyalty, Duty, Respect, Selfless service, Honor, Integrity
and Personal courage.
- KEY
COMPONENTS OF LEADERSHIP – Army
i.
Be – honest, competent, forward-looking and inspiring
ii.
Know – interpersonal skills, conceptual skills, technical
skills, and tactical skills
iii.
Do – Leaders act by influencing, operating and improving.
- QUALITIES
OF A GOOD LEADER
i.
Lead rather than tell (show the whys)
ii.
An inspiring vision to transmit to our players.
iii.
The communication skills to get people to work together to
achieve the vision.
iv.
A willingness to lead.
v.
Use plural pronouns – our, we, and us.
- EXPECTATIONS
OF LEADERS
i.
Be committed to excellence
ii.
Be positive
iii.
Be prepared
iv.
Pay attention to detail – do the corners
v.
Be organized
vi.
Be flexible
vii.
Be ethical
viii.
Emphasize sportsmanship
ix.
Follow the smoke – seek the right information
- TEACHING
i.
You hear, you forget.
You see, you remember. You do,
you understand.
ii.
Remember the two most powerful words in response to general
charges: Be specific.
iii.
Five laws of learning
1.
Explain what you want
2.
Demonstrate for the learner
3.
Student demonstrates
4.
Correct demonstration
5.
Repetition is lord and master
- THREE
WAYS TO MOTIVATE
i.
Flatter me, and I may not believe you. Criticize me, and I may not like you. Ignore me, and I may not forgive you. Encourage me, and I will not forget
you. William Arthur Ward
ii.
Leaders listen. Leaders don’t criticize every mistake. They let people learn from their mistake.
1.
By fear and coercion
2.
By incentives
3.
By persuasion and inspiration à ONLY LOVE LASTS
- DISCIPLINE
i.
You can’t lower your standards during hard times, you must
raise them.
ii.
You can’t talk about sacrifice without mentioning
discipline.
iii.
Discipline is not what you do to yourself, it is what you do
for yourself.
iv.
A coach doesn’t punish the players, the players choose the
punishment as a result of their actions.
v.
You can treat people differently as long as you treat them
fairly.
vi.
Discipline is doing what you are supposed to do in the best
possible manner at the time you are supposed to do it.
vii.
Sometimes a leader has to draw a line in the sand.
viii.
Sometimes people have to move on, despite your best efforts.
ix.
Be willing to walk away from the table.
x.
There will be times when you have to say no even though it
will injure someone’s feelings.
- GENERAL
THOUGHTS
i.
It’s important that people know what you stand for. It’s equally important that they know what
you won’t stand for.
ii.
Put people first
iii.
As a coach, you must be visible and approachable. You have to be “out there.” A coach who is visible, honest, and
understanding encourages his people to communicate back.
iv.
Coaching is first and foremost a teaching function. Are you teaching the right thing?
v.
The great leader is not the one in the spotlight. He’s the one leading the applause.
vi.
A coach who is visible, honest, and understanding encourages
his people to communicate back.
vii.
Authority and credible leadership are not the same thing.
viii.
As a leader, you must lead the WHOLE person.
ix.
Rather than seeking success, a leader should seek to deserve
success.
x.
Love your people more than the position you hold.
xi.
Distill all the tasks a coach must perform, all the things
they must teach and instill within the team down to bedrock, and you will be
left with this: confidence and
self-esteem.
xii.
Teach the fundamentals
xiii.
Innovate as necessary
- VISION
- REGARDING
YOUR VISION?
i.
Can you taste it?
ii.
Can you touch it?
iii.
Can you smell it?
iv.
Can you see it?
1.
You can seize only what you can see.
- KEY
STEPS
i.
Set priorities for the achievement of that vision.
ii.
Enforce priorities for the achievement of that vision.
iii.
Implement the “theory of the next step.”
- GENERAL
THOUGHTS
i.
Good coaches have a clear, precise vision of what they want
for their team. This picture of excellence, this vision, is the essence of
coaching.
ii.
Leaders make sure people not only see the vision, they live
and breathe it.
iii.
Winning teams believe in their vision, they take ownership
of their vision. Their vision is their
reality.
iv.
Without goals, dreams, a vision—today will look the same as
yesterday and tomorrow will.
v.
Winning teams are goal oriented
vi.
Create visions, not dreams.
vii.
See victory in your mind.
viii.
Imagine what it will like when you reach your dream?
ix.
Run to Win!
x.
Dare to make your own miracles.
- KEY
TRAITS
- SUCCESSFUL
TEAMS HAVE FIVE DISTINCT CHARACTERISTICS
i.
The team collectively determines what end result it wants to
achieve and how it will achieve it.
ii.
Team members understand how accomplishing the team’s goals
will help them achieve their individual goals (each individual understands
“what’s in it for me”).
iii.
Team members see how their individual efforts contribute to
the overall success of the team and accept personal accountability for the
success of the team.
iv.
The team is mentally tough, able to rise each time it falls.
v.
The team makes its vision an absolute part of its believe
system.
- WHAT
DO GOOD TEAMS DO?
i.
Put the good of the team first.
ii.
Work together to accomplish the goals of the team.
iii.
Execute tasks thoroughly and quickly.
iv.
Meet or exceed standards.
v.
Thrive on demanding challenges.
vi.
Learn from the experiences and are proud of their
accomplishments.
vii.
Discipline – bringing pride to the team.
- FIVE
QUALITIES – Coach K
i.
Communication, Trust, Collective Responsibility, Caring and
Pride
- COMMUNICATION
i.
Keys
1.
Good ideas don’t sell themselves.
2.
Everything you do as a coach is a form of
communication. People never take their
eyes off of you.
3.
It’s not so much what you say, it’s how you say it that
matters.
4.
The
strong leader who is secure enough to give simple instructions and trust his
followers' abilities to implement them will almost always come out ahead.
RESIST the urge to over-lead.
ii.
When does it take place?
1.
Hear or see what you have to say.
2.
Understand it.
3.
Believe it.
4.
Believe you mean it.
5.
Remember it.
6.
Internalize it.
7.
And begin to use it themselves.
iii.
Qualities of a good listener
1.
Take an active interest in the other person.
2.
Suspend judgment until all the facts are known.
3.
Listen with a “third ear” to discover what the person wants
but doesn’t or can’t say.
- CARING
i.
Leaders forge relationships with people that allow for clear
communication of goals, priorities and expectations.
- TRUST
i.
Trust is the only thing that makes leadership possible.
ii.
You can’t create trust – it comes from your people, not you.
- CHARACTER
i.
Before we can do, we must be.
ii.
Humility, hard work, honesty, integrity, personal appearance
and conduct.
iii.
Integrity is nothing more than doing the right thing no
matter who’s watching you
iv.
The leader as servant.
v.
Equality and compassionfor all.
vi.
Convictions above convenience.
vii.
Recruiting character.
- GOOD
HABITS
i.
We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then is not an act, but a habit.
ii.
Good habits make success second nature.
iii.
Do your homework because your competitor is.
iv.
Don’t put things off.
Do the unpleasant things first.
v.
Creating time for preparation and organization is the real key to
organizational efficiency. By planning ahead and allowing yourself time to be
prepare, you will avert many crises that often come with management.
vi.
Fundamentals are the small things essential to your success.
vii.
WIN—What’s Important Now
- GENERAL
THOUGHTS
i.
The absolute number one characteristic of a winning team or
organization is mental toughness, mental discipline—the ability to hold on to
what you want, your goals, your vision, in the face of setbacks and adversity.
ii.
Three key questions:
Can I trust you? Are you
committed to excellence? Do you care
about me?
iii.
Don’t waste energy on the unknowns – worry about what you
can control.
iv.
Instill pride
v.
Autograph your performance
vi.
Do the corners
vii.
Lack of inspection leads to mediocrity.
viii.
Know your weakness.
ix.
Leaders guide people’s efforts towards a common goal.
x.
Keep probing, questioning and discovering.
- TEAMWORK
- KEYS
i.
People support what they help create
ii.
The secret is to work less as individuals and more as a
team.
iii.
Teamwork is what the Green Bay Packers were all about. They didn’t do it for individual glory. They did it because they loved one
another. Vince Lombardi
- REQUIREMENTS
FOR SUCCESSFUL TEAMWORK
i.
Trust – product of competence
ii.
Communication – share information and value opinions
iii.
Loyalty
iv.
Selfless service – giving of oneself for team success
v.
Respect
- MAGIC
- Make a greater individual commitment.
- GENERAL
THOUGHTS
i.
Everyone wants to talk about their rights and
privileges….what about their obligations and responsibilities?
ii.
We become them or they become us. You conform to the program.
The program doesn’t conform to you.
iii.
People acting together as a group can accomplish things
which no individual acting alone could ever hope to bring about. Franklin D. Roosevelt
iv.
Who are you to jeopardize everybody’s chance at success?
v.
You can get everything in life you want, if you help enough
other people get what they want. Zig
Ziglar
vi.
The achievements of an organization are the results of the
combined effort of each individual.
Vince Lombardi
- ATTITUDE
- WHAT
IS IT?
i.
A winning attitude is developed when a coach creates trust,
respect, and commitment within the program and MODELS those same traits daily.
ii.
Winning attitude is about standards of excellence – being
the best you can be and doing the best you can are constants.
iii.
You don’t win on reputation.
iv.
Optimism transforms attitudes and beliefs.
- TRADITION
& CULTURE
i.
Good coaches transform this winning attitude into a winning
tradition. When new people join the team, the veterans, the old hands, pass the
winning attitude on to the new arrivals. "This is how we do things -
around here we expect to win." With a winning tradition, you don 't
succeed just this year, you don't win once in awhile. With a winning tradition,
you win time after time, year after year after year.
ii.
Celebrate tradition – tradition never graduates.
iii.
Tradition helps motivate people to come back.
iv.
Honor the seniors in your organization.
v.
Once tradition is in place, confidence, excellence, unity
and pride will grow.
vi.
Leaders leverage their organizations traditions, culture and
values to unify people in a common cause.
- GENERAL
THOUGHTS
i.
Winning attitude has to be learned. Who teaches it?
ii.
Before you utter a word, the team sees your face, the look
in your eyes, even your walk. SHOW THE
FACE YOUR TEAM NEEDS TO SEE.
iii.
Obstacles are things a person sees when he takes his eyes of
his goals.
iv.
If you only look at what is, you might never attain what
could be. Anonymous
v.
We have forty million reasons…but not a single excuse. Rudyard Kipling
vi.
Once you learn to quit, it becomes a habit. Vince Lombardi
vii.
If you’ll not settle for anything less than your best, you
will be amazed at what you can accomplish in your lives. Vince Lombardi
viii.
The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human
being can alter his life by altering his attitude. William James
- CHANGE
- KEY
TO EFFECTIVE CHANGE
i.
Give people a “why.”
ii.
The imagination to innovate
iii.
The professionalism to perform
iv.
The openness to collaborate
- POOR
REASONS NOT TO CHANGE
i.
We’ve always done it that way before.
ii.
We tried that before, it won’t work.
iii.
It will take ten years to do that, and besides they’ll never
let us.
iv.
I’m too young, too old, or lack the training or education.
- GENERAL
THOUGHTS
i.
The key to an program’s long-term success is its ability to
change when necessary to keep itself competitive.
ii.
Leaders must master both innovation and change to be
effective. The first is a powerful
driver of growth, the second is essential to an organization’s survival.
iii.
Understand that change is constant.
iv.
Don’t be afraid to change your mind if a bad decision or
unfair action has been made.
v.
You must innovate to survive change.
vi.
Innovation is a choice while change is an imperative.
- SUCCESS
& FAILURE
- SURVIVING
SUCCESS
i.
Reach beyond your grasp.
Your goals should be grand enough to get the best of you.
ii.
You measure your performance against your ability…not by
comparing your performance with others.
iii.
The trick isn’t becoming successful – it’s becoming more
successful each day.
iv.
What have you done for me lately?
v.
Don’t forget what you did right.
vi.
Break it! The great
ones are always fixing what they do.
Keep being creative.
vii.
Believe you can win it all but don’t assume you will
viii.
Hunger for excellence, not success. Don’t let anyone define excellence for you.
- OVERCOMING
FAILURE
i.
MAKE FAILURE YOUR FRIEND
1.
When faced with failure, recognize it, admit it, learn from
it, forget it.
2.
To overcome a problem – OBSERVE, ORIENT, DECIDE, ACT
3.
Do not fear failure – everyone makes mistakes.
4.
There
is no such thing as 'mistake-free' life. The important thing to do is to learn
from your mistakes.
5.
Do not allow negativity to foster.
6.
The ability to carry on during adversity showcases critical
leadership traits.
- GENERAL
THOUGHTS
1.
Get your mind and body ready for success.
2.
Eliminate the word quit from your vocabulary.
3.
Continue to have faith in your vision.
4.
It’s easy to have faith in yourself and have discipline when
you’re a winner, when you’re number one.
What you’ve got to have is faith and discipline when you’re not yet a
winner. Vince Lombardi
5.
The test of success is not what you do when you are on
top. Success is how high you bounce
when you hit bottom. Gen. George Patton
6.
You can’t taste victory without risking defeat.
7.
Never forget a defeat, it can be the key to victory.
8.
One should not dwell on misfortune or mistakes where nothing
can be done to rectify the situation.
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